The Alford Crew

July 9, 2010

~i wanna be like Daddy and Connor~

Filed under: Family — Kristina @ 7:11 pm

I love the fact that our littlest Alford wants to be like his Daddy and Connor, or like “Papi, Uncle Ross, or Jay” Chris and i pray for men of good character to participate on our journey as parents to be role models and examples for our boys to be in constant contact with or at least know they can call on at anytime when in need of help or advice…so here are some cute pics i ran across today while taking a few minutes to sort through our i-photo selection.

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Gotta love jammin’ with big brother Connor

Train time with “Uncle Ross”, Connor and Daddy!

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Time with Papi! They look a lot alike!IMG_1607

Daddi-o  😉

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January 30, 2010

~Family Addition~

Filed under: Family, News — Kristina @ 5:13 pm

Meet Princess Harley Alford!

She was born September 25, 2009!

We were able to bring her home around 8 weeks after that! 2 days after we moved into the new place we picked her up and the house has not been the same!

She is hilarious!

Connor and Cayden really wanted a puppy again so we thought we would look once we got to the new place, but we found out about Harley before we moved…The family that we got Harley from were more than willing to take care of her an extra bit until we moved into the new house- this was helpful…Maybe i should have gotten someone to help with little man Cayden while we moved…i might just have had more boxes unpacked by now, lol!

So here she is, i hope she feels loved and happy in her new family, we are happy she is here, even more happy she is taking to the training on how to be a good Alford more and more each day—jury is still out, we’ll keep you posted.

8 weeks old

Her favorite things thus far: Jumping, kissing anyone, but especially Cayden and Connor, jumping, chasing the ball in the pic above, jumping, tugging and chewing, did i mention jumping?

January 18, 2010

~a lesson learned “once” about 12 years ago~

Filed under: Family, General, Random reminders, Understanding — Kristina @ 5:43 pm

The Alford Crew is learning day by day the importance of unity, of being one. A goal Chris and I hold is to stay in community with our boys and one another other all fueled by communion in God…this is something that is a constant goal in our lives, not something we achieve and then pat ourselves on the back, and say, “good job” then go about doing something else. No, it is key to have those expected family times-safe havens of conversation either around the dinner table or on a walk in the park-sometimes a ride in the car offers the opportunity to share where each of us are in life. We have worked a lot through the years to keep open to each other no matter how rough our situations… to include one another in the cool stuff happening in our lives in addition to what would otherwise be hidden emotions and concerns if we didn’t share.

I remember when Connor, our oldest was just two years old-we observed as parents of a preschooler the importance of getting down on his level physically and looking him in the eye, holding his gaze as long as he would allow it, sharing with him we love him and we wanted to know how he was feeling. We even teamed up with his preschool and Sunday School teachers and asked them to go over general faces we all have which reflect certain emotions until Connor understood how to communicate his feelings For example, if we’re happy-we smile or sad or feeling tired we may frown-etc. (please note-this didn’t happen in a more preferred time of over night-no it took weeks of time together) What joy when it became fairly constant for him to share what he needed or wanted w/out whining, crying or reservation. It was nice to know what he was feeling so we were not in a guessing game! If you have or have had small children i know you are smiling right now! 😉  Before, when an emotion of frustration or anger would sweep over Connor as a little guy-he handled it by whining, fussing or fighting. He would act out frustrations and either hit or swing is arms around in despair or he would run over in a corner and sulk and dare anyone to come near-he may just grump and groan…”why?” may be your thought…he didn’t have a vocabulary to describe his feelings, he was immature, he hadn’t been taught how to confront life situations in a positive way yet. All he had was instinct…

Why did i just share that family truth with you? Maybe to shed light on a larger Family issue we have been reminded of.

As God’s family or Kingdom, we are called to a life of communion with God and community with one another…when that is lacking either individually, in our personal family unit or within the part of the church family we are placed in, there is often a developmental arrest in our spiritual growth-often accompanied with physical and emotional side effects. It is then inevitable that someone is gonna get hurt from the adult child , whining, fussing, flailing their arms or their tongue in anger and confusion.

Confrontation of self is a nasty and “un-fun” act of discipline…after all, who wants to be accountable and responsible like that? Sometimes it is as simple as a lack of knowledge/education and one just hasn’t been taught how to share their feelings in a productive way.  A healthy confrontation with others is a good thing when handled appropriately and in love.

We are so thankful to be part of a family bigger than ours, the church in general is our extended family. We have not only given a lot to the Church through the years, but have gained much—unable to measure it all. God consistently reveals His love and heart to us by getting eye to eye with us through the letters and truths He left us in His word or through close friends/ mentors.  Do you have that person in your church who loves to hug?  Several people share that you can’t physically feel, see or hear God.  from experience, i beg to differ.  God is very tangible, just look around. That hug, a prayer, a smile, and encouraging word from a friend, rain, sunshine, peace-all are reflections of God and His character.  Allow your heart to be open to take He and His family in with all of our quirks and beauty we are each a masterpiece — a brush stroke reflecting community and communion with God (when we allow Him in).

Do we have it all figured out? No, but we are loving the fact that we have a community of faith who love God and love us, who stick it out with us, walk with us, hold us accountable and not bail out when we or they mess up…Cayden inspired the mommy memory in this story of Connor our oldest, as we are going through similar emotions and recognizing the signs of how he feels and why as a little guy with limited vocabulary-it just got me to thinking about how even as adults we can learn how to project our feelings and emotions in a way that is revealing but without hurt being intended.  So thankful we lived through this with Connor so we weren’t so clueless, but we are learning so much new in going through this with Cayden! Goodness! Having to stay on my toes these days!

December 16, 2009

~Oh the places you’ll go…~

Filed under: Family, Favorite Things, General — Kristina @ 7:25 pm

Some dear friends of ours own Anglen Photography all pictures in this post are their awesome gift and talent reflected.

As you know our family is not and has never been perfect although we are all meant for and perfect for each other! So if a person or photographer can catch us looking decent or make us look like a piece of art then they are gifted! Thanks Ross and Rachel! http://www.anglenphotography.com (check them out) The premier place in Tennessee to go for any life event you need captured and made timeless!

I would like to think everyone knows of Dr, Seuss and his awesome books of rhyme…one of our favorites is Oh the Places You’ll Go”

When i look at our boys/young men, i get so excited for them! In the same moment i usually cry as Chris and i have experienced so many places together that have brought much joy along with some sad times that often hurt and left scars.  All of these times good and difficult have revealed a way to have a deeper friendship with God, others, one another-including a joy like no other.

So here are the boys, i pray they will go further than we ever have and pray even more that we will have equipped them for their journey.

Connor-age 14…can you believe it?

Cayden-age 2…love him, adore his smile too. He and his big brother with their smiles, make us smile!

Please remember our family in thought and prayer. We are praising God for so many things He has brought us through this past year…It is awesome to have a picture with all four of us present! Chris is doing great. He took some time off of all his adventures, has realized he is mortal, but serves a God that all things are possible with. We have seen marriages healed, people come to know the Lord, folks back in fellowship with local churches and physical and spiritual healing for several in various countries over the past two years of ministry here in TN. and abroad, BUT we definitely know that Jesus gets ALL credit for anything good that has happened here! We were just privileged to observe it happen and journey alongside of the folks involved.

“Call to me and i will answer you and tell you great and unreachable things you do not know.” (Jer. 33:3 NIV)

God was talking to Jeremiah while he was confined in a courtyard…just like we are on this earth…confined…but only briefly. We need to continue to call on Him and allow Him to rule in us, allow Him to define us…allow Him to do the impossible and unreachable things through us, not in our own strength.

If we do this…oh the places we’ll go!

September 3, 2009

~Why have rain boots?~

Filed under: Family, Favorite Things, Funny Stuff — Kristina @ 2:12 am

Why have rain boots if you never wear them and why wear them if you never stomp in a puddle? I say stomp. Let your kids stomp in a puddle, for that matter, play in the rain peeps, enjoy it!

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Okay, so it rained, there was a puddle…i thought, why not? “Cayden you want to splish splash in the puddle?”

His Great Aunt GaNell, bought these boots so we thought we would get her money worth!

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Splash!

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“Come splash w/me mommy!”

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